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Conquer the Five Most Common Fears about Your Wedding Ceremony

Author: Chris Simeral

Conquer the Five Most Common Fears about Your Wedding Ceremony

It�s safe to say that of all the important events in your lifetime, your wedding day is certain to be right up there with those that are the most meaningful. And throughout the entire wedding day � the preparations, the ceremony, the reception, and the wedding night � the moment when you recite your wedding vows to each other is the most meaningful. It is a time that you will remember forever, exactly as it felt: a sublime, dreamlike fantastical moment, when everyone significant to you is watching as you join in wedlock with the most important individual in your life.

Conquering Your Fears

Since this is such a unique and central moment to your romantic life, you�re probably wondering how it is that you�ll make the experience better than that 10th grade public-speaking assignment where you blanked out halfway through and fainted in front of all of your peers. Begin by telling yourself that it is perfectly natural to feel nervous when speaking in public. Moreover, not everyone is born with perfect public-speaking skills that accurately demonstrate what they feel in their hearts. However, fortunately for the majority of us, these things can be learned.

Of course, being well-prepared and armed with wedding vows you know are the absolute best they could possibly be is one of the easiest ways to overcome these fears. How do I know? Because the home-study course I put together, The Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit, has helped hundreds of couples take the fear out of their wedding ceremony by giving them the tools they need to write truly amazing wedding vows. You can find out more about the kit at http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com.

But beyond that, when you think logically about each of these fears, you�ll realize there is nothing that cannot be overcome with a bit of care, technique, and practice. Let�s take a realistic look at these five incredibly common worries. In a few minutes, you�ll see that none of them are likely to spoil your ceremony.

Common Fear #1: Freezing Up

This is a direct result of being excessively nervous. Therefore, it�s important to come up with some calming techniques that will help you to keep cool. It�s only natural to be a bit nervous. In fact, the added rush from being a little on the anxious side can actually help you to speak better and with added feeling. The best technique that you can give yourself is breathing. Most often, when we are overly frightened, we either breathe much too quickly or we hold our breath. Therefore, as you�re keeping yourself calm, concentrate on breathing smoothly, neither too fast or too slow, but regularly, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Practice a few times in advance, especially in other situations that you�ve found a bit stressful in the past. You�ll be surprised at what an enormous difference something as simple as breathing can do for you.

Common Fear #2: Going Blank

This is another trick played by your overly-nervous brain. To stop yourself from becoming so nervous that you go blank, or even to remove any fear that you may go blank, bring a �backup� copy of your wedding vows on cue cards that you can slip into your pocket. Make sure they are very crisp and neat looking so that you won�t hesitate to use them if you have to, and write clearly on them so that you won�t get stuck due to sloppiness.

Common Fear #3: Blushing, Dry Mouth, and Shaking.

These are extremely common physical responses to being nervous and having to perform in front of others. However, even if they do begin to occur, you can bring yourself to a calmer state where these physical symptoms will begin to fade. Try to ignore blushing and shaking as much as possible and just concentrate on your vows and how much you love the person to whom you are making those vows. With regards to dry mouth, drink lots of water beforehand, and try not to think about it. As long as you concentrate on what you�re doing, instead of the fact that you are blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth, they will actually begin to resolve themselves quite quickly.

Common Fear #4: Having Someone Heckle

This is a common fear, but it simply doesn�t happen at weddings. Remind yourself that everyone there with you is hoping the very best for you and your future spouse. They are all nervous right along with you and wouldn�t dream of saying anything but best wishes for your future together. The closest they will come to �heckling� is sending a mental prayer to provide you the strength and the courage to continue so that you may enjoy long and happy lives together.

Common Fear #5: Being Judged

The people attending your wedding are all people who know you, like or love you, and who wish you the very best. They know how much adrenaline is running through your system as you say your wedding vows, and wouldn�t judge you at a time like that; except to think about how well suited you are to the love of your life.

About the Author

Chris Simeral�s Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit has helped hundreds of people across the U.S., Canada, and Great Britain compose completely personalized and ultra-romantic wedding vows. Find out more at href="http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com/">http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com.

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Choosing the month, date and time

Author: Tom Ttsatsos

The wedding and the events leading up to the ceremony are steeped in ancient traditions. Choosing the month and day of a bride's wedding were considered as one of the most important decisions. Many followed this rhyme when choosing their wedding month:

Marry when the year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true.
When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate.
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know.
Marry in April when you can, joy for maiden and for man.
Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day.
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go.
Those who in July do wed must labor for their daily bread.
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see.
Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine.
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry.
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember.
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.

May was considered an unlucky month due to several Pagan traditions. Summer began in May with the festival of Baltane, which was celebrated with outdoor orgies. It was considered an unsuitable month to begin married life. In Roman times, the Feast of the Dead and the festival of the goddess of chastity both occurred in May. In the Victorian Era, this advice was taken more seriously than it is today. It is rumored that Queen Victoria forbade her children to marry in May.

It was also considered inappropriate to marry during Lent, as it was a time of abstinence. Thus was born the rhyme: Marry in Lent, live to repent.

June was considered to be a lucky month to marry in because it is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of love and marriage. It was believed that getting married in June would bring prosperity and happiness to the newlyweds. June also signified the end of Lent and the arrival of warmer weather. Summer as a whole was considered a good time to marry due to the sun's association with fertility. If married in June, the bride was likely to birth her first child in the Spring, allowing her enough time to recover before the fall harvest.

April, November and December were also good months to get married in, since these months did not conflict with peak farm work months. October was an auspicious month, signifying a bountiful harvest.

Choosing the right day was also important. Today, most weddings are held on a Saturday, but in the past, this day was considered unlucky. In fact, every day of the week had a specific meaning. In the Victorian era, the ladies would follow this rhyme when considering the day of the week for her wedding:

Monday is for wealth
Tuesday is for health
Wednesday is the best day of all
Thursday is for losses
Friday is for crosses
Saturday is for no luck at all

Friday was considered the most unlucky day to marry, while Wednesday was the best day. Sunday was once considered the most popular day to get married, as it was the only day most people were free from work. But in the seventeenth century, Puritans put a stop to this because they thought it was improper be festive on the Sabbath.

It is considered lucky to marry when the second-hand of the clock is going up instead of going down.

About the Author

Tom Ttsatsos, write article and provide consultancy to The Almerican Wedding.

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Buying the Perfect Suit

Author: Leo Green

A suit is generally worn with the intention of making a statement about oneself, create a certain image or simply as an expression of respect. In the corporate world a business suit can convey the individual�s place within the organization�s hierarchy, establish power and position and express one�s proficiency and mastery in his profession. A suit is usually the garment of choice to show respect in special circumstances whether at a wedding, funeral, graduation or other life cycle event. Following are some tips on purchasing a suit.

Firstly, consider the purpose of your suit. Are you a business executive that wears a suit several times a week? If so, examine your current suit inventory. Discount those that you seldom wear and establish the colors, designs and styles that you are lacking. Remember that dark suits exude power and authority that are amplified by a pin stripe. These are great suits for presentations, differentiating oneself in the boardroom and demonstrating that you are the authority and leader within the group. Next time you are at a meeting, try wearing a dark blue, black or charcoal suit with a pin stripe, place yourself prominently at the head of the table, stand with authority when you speak and monitor the attitude of your colleagues towards you.

Need a business suit that says you are one of the guys? Consider a mid grey suit as first choice followed by taupe and green shades. Beiges are great in the spring and summer months. Consider patterns with soft stripes, checks and various fabric textures. In all circumstances be sure to buy a suit that will fit into to your environment and not single you out as a tasteless dresser.

Need an interview suit? The most important advice that we can give you is do not let your clothing make the lasting impression on your prospective employer. That impression should be transmitted by your skills and attributes. An interview suit should be well tailored, enhance your appearance but not make a statement on its own. A suit that is memorable to the interviewer is usually so because it is inappropriate for one of many reasons; poorly tailored, inappropriate color or design, bad fit, poorly coordinated etc. For entry to mid level positions consider wearing a suit in mid to dark grey or navy shades. For senior management positions wear a dark grey or navy suit � stripes are an excellent choice. Remember the accessories are an important part of the clothing package.

Those of us who wear suits infrequently and need an all purpose suit should consider navy, grey or black. These suits can be worn very comfortably to most life cycle events (weddings, funerals, confirmations, graduations�) as well as interviews, parties etc. The advantage of solid navy or black is that the jacket can generally be worn as a blazer with a matching pant in grey or taupe. If you have one or two suits in your wardrobe choose timeless classics that will always be fashionable and won�t be remembered as the suit you wore the last time and the time before that and...

Need a wedding suit? If you are part of the wedding party you should make your choice based on the guidelines provided by the groom. Otherwise choose a nice dressy dark suit for an evening affair. An afternoon gala calls for a mid range color and in summer even a nice beige is appropriate. If the wedding suit will be your only suit follow the advice we provided above and get yourself a good all purpose suit.

Men on the go often need a good travel suit to get from the plane directly to an important meeting. Look for a suit that is made of a wrinkle resistant fabric, preferably wool as it breathes well, has lots of pockets with secure closures and is treated with Teflon for stain repellency. Consider a navy blue or black suit so the jacket can double as a blazer.

Choosing the right fabric is important. Despite all the advances in textile design and engineering the fabric of choice for a fine suit is still good quality wool. This natural fiber is robust, drapes well, bounces back into shape after repeated use, breathes well and looks good. Fine woolens are manufactured in various finishes and weights. Other fabrics that are commonly used for suits are microfibre, polyester and wool blends, silk and silk blends and linen. Microfibre fabrics are generally a great choice for a more casual men�s suit and wear nicely but generally do not breath as well as good wool. Silk and wool blends are usually lighter weight fabrics and generally fit into the specialty suit and elegant suit categories. Men�s suits made of wool and polyester blends are usually stiffer, do not breath as well and should be less expensive. Linen suits are intended for a casual look, are wonderful in the heat and wrinkle when you look at them.

There are many good reasons to purchase on the web. The convenience of shopping when you want to, shopping from the comfort of your own home or office, selection, the ability to find items not available close to home and of course price. How do you buy an item as individual as a suit? If the product is not generic and you are not sure of the fit etc� Choose a merchant that is experienced and knows his product. Email or call and ask enough questions to give you confidence. Describe your body type, the purpose of your suit, your price range and what you already have in your closet. Expect a professional, timely response. Ascertain that they have an acceptable return policy. Be sure they have been in business for at least a few years. Read customer testimonials on their site and ensure transactions are in a secure environment.

About the Author

Co-owner and manager of Montreal's Boutique Jacques and Execstyle.com.

Graduating with a B.Comm from Concordia University in 1970, Green landed a position as financial management planner with Canadian General Electric.

After seven years in public practice and a position as financial systems coordinator at Royal Victoria Hospital, Green went out on his own as a mergers and acquisitions consultant.

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